tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296244705239733650.post314077990924890340..comments2023-06-12T03:53:38.575-07:00Comments on freedastyle: Dear freeda, Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296244705239733650.post-30369145869183895142012-11-01T12:51:48.067-07:002012-11-01T12:51:48.067-07:00Great essay Freeda! I never knew how many things ...Great essay Freeda! I never knew how many things you had to work out when you get divorced. No wonder it's so traumatic. Even more so if there are kids involved. You're a wise woman and a good mom. Cheers.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12194250116833721503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296244705239733650.post-87231060584134579592012-10-31T17:08:34.848-07:002012-10-31T17:08:34.848-07:00The only other point I would add is that when you ...The only other point I would add is that when you are coming up with your proposal for the other parent's "visitation" time... make sure that it is something that, if the other parent is awarded primary custody, you can accept as visitation time for yourself.<br /><br />Judges don't like to see blatantly unfair visitation time proposals... and if the custody case doesn't go your way... your time with your child will be given short shrift, rather than the other parent's.<br /><br />The above does not account for solid reasons why visitation time should be restricted. That is where the documentation Freeda already covered is crucial. Then you show that your unusual request is based on facts, rather than sheer spite.lawyerdollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16499257623425215954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296244705239733650.post-84230945012531614402012-10-31T07:26:46.713-07:002012-10-31T07:26:46.713-07:00I knew someone would say that! I have to say that...I knew someone would say that! I have to say that it has a flip side as well... don't over-idealize the other parent in your desire not to slam them. I've personally gone both ways, and both have shot me in the foot, so I recommend a middle ground. It's not your job to declare the other person as horrible or great. If you try to stay largely quiet about them, they will declare themselves without your assistance.freedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06022216289165895374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296244705239733650.post-13254149920356013542012-10-31T06:39:45.704-07:002012-10-31T06:39:45.704-07:00I just want to add...don't bad mouth the other...I just want to add...don't bad mouth the other parent to the child. It's not fair to anyone, and if your ex is really that bad, the child will eventually figure it out for themselves. If not, your ex is still their other parent, and they will love them whether you do or not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com